upheaval and how that person proceeds to get out of it.
“Breakdowns can create breakthroughs. Things fall apart so they can fall together again.”
What’s going on?
I think sometimes it can just creep up on you. In my case, one day, after several months of being relatively happy for what seemed like months, I just woke up
angry. Angry at everything and everybody including people I did not know (such as getting upset with drivers not using turn signals) and loved ones. I snapped at
my sister one day when she was trying to help me. Yes I apologized. The worst is I was/am especially angry with myself, for even the smallest mistake. This anger
has gotten worse over time, currently lasting for a few weeks. It just seems to go on and on. So here I am almost a month later still trying to deal with this emotion
and other emotions (doubts, worry, fear, etc.) that have decided to join in.
What’s really going on?
I find I can handle one to two issues at a time. However, when it seems like everything is falling apart at once, I become overwhelmed. Now let’s start going
through a couple of crises and that’s when I find myself right in the middle of “going through.” Here is my short list of events that have brought me here. Learning
to really manage a small business (I do not care for the business part, but I like what I do), such as dealing with when a few slow-paying clients turn into late bill
paying. My extreme out of proportion feeling was similar to a popular Rhianna song about getting her money. When I finally got paid, I hide the cash and could not
find it for a week. The end of a long term relationship. I was ill for a few days with the flu (Really in April?) and I hate being sick. Followed by one car problem after
another. Both of these incidents put me behind on my project deadlines. To top that off, I am feeling like I am the only one who feels this way and not talking to
anyone about my experiences and/or feelings. Which can be a good thing and a bad thing for me. And so on.
Perhaps the worst part is that I truly believe that the more you get caught up in, what I call negative emotions, that your problems just get worse. I strongly believe
that thoughts become things and that the more negative thoughts/energy you put out in the universe the more negative things you pull into your life. You get more of
what you do not want … I think you get the picture.
A few days ago, I woke up and said, “I can’t stand this anymore. I am tired of wallowing in my own self pity. It is time for me to “get a grip” and do something about
it.” It is how you respond to your issues, problems and crisis that really define who you are and I am at that point where I am ready to do whatever it takes to get rid
of these negative feelings and experiences.
Let me be clear, I am not saying that what I do is the definitive answer. What I do may or may not work for you, but that there is something you can do to help you get
through. The following are a list of the techniques that I will be using, over the next month. Next month, I will provide updates on my experiences.
Walking provides me with three quick results: being in nature, it releases endorphins and weight loss. I will be increasing the number of times per week that I do
this. No electronics (i.e no music or phone use allowed, during this activity.)
Meditation helps me get out of my head, at least temporarily. I will be increasing the number of meditation session I do per week.
I think sometimes we can get so caught up with all the bad things going on that we neglect to appreciate the good things in our lives. I will be using prayer and
journaling for this technique.
When I am feeling overwhelmed, I will utilize a new breathing technique I have been reading about that promises an immediate, but only temporary way not to
totally lose control.
“I’m at Step 3” - Give your emotion a name
Emotions are not all bad. It is a messenger. So ask yourself what it’s trying to say to you. But in order to know that, you first have to name it. When naming your
emotion, be as specific as possible.
Drink more water.
I came up with this one. My thinking is if it will get rid of toxins in your body, maybe it will work for this too.
I will be taking more Epsom salts baths. The Epsom salts, 1/2 cup added to a bath, also assists with detoxification.
More journaling and less being online or watching television.
“You always grow through what you are going through.”
— Joseph Simmons (Reverend Run)
God speed until next time.
I am “going through.”
I have not come across a lot articles providing commentary or insights into “going through” when the
author is actually in the midst of it his or herself. Well here I am and here this situation is. I usually
write from past experiences, or something I have tried, or from informative and interesting information I
have come across. But this time I decided to share my personal experience because I believe that
sharing a view into real life, ongoing journey will provide more understanding and insights, thereby
resonate and encourage others to preserver, if they find themselves in a similar situation.
“We rise up ourselves by helping others.”
— Robert Ingersoll.
“Going through” according to dictionary.com is “to move or proceed, to or from something”
Such a generic description. Synonyms, however, seem to provide the underlying feelings including:
experience, undergo, withstand, bear, suffer, and survive. I think that just about covers the “in-the-
moment” feelings. As much as these words indicate that this will be difficult and unpleasant, there is an
end to it. My definition is: A time period in an individual’s life when it feels like everything is in chaos and